Maternity leave provides a chance for physical healing, time to connect with our newborns and support for emotional adjustments as we embrace our new role and responsibilities. As I embarked on this beautiful journey of motherhood at the start of 2023, I found myself at the intersection of two powerful identities: a first-time mother and a career enthusiast. I discovered that preserving my career identity while ensuring the healthy development of my son during maternity leave was challenging but possible. Here are 5 ways that I navigated this delicate dance:
1. Reflect and recharge
Once baby and I had settled into a comfortable routine of feedings, cuddles, playtime and rest during the initial four months postpartum, I started thinking about life after leave. In the tiny moments of quiet, I spent time reflecting on my career: How I felt about the work I do, the impact it has on others, whether it brought me joy and what else I might be good at.
Strategies that helped with this process were a skills audit, industry research and career path mapping. I did a self-assessment of my technical and people skills, identified industry trends in my field and visualized through a mind-mapping tool where I saw myself in 1-5 years. I then mapped out steps to achieve my goals.
2. Acknowledge multiple identities
I learned to embrace my multifaceted identity. Yes, I am a mom, but I am also an educator, a career development practitioner, an entrepreneur and a lifelong learner. I came to this understanding by first acknowledging that things had changed and I would need to evolve with this shift. Connecting with parents who had older children, during playdates and mommy groups at my church and local library provided an opportunity for me to learn how they navigated their shifting identities. We shared experiences and offered support, which deepened my sense of self. I also tried to make time during the week to reconnect with my passions. Understanding and appreciating that my multiple identities were able to coexist was incredibly helpful.
“Yes, I am a mom, but I am also an educator, a career development practitioner, an entrepreneur and a lifelong learner.”
3. Stay connected
Even though I was physically away from work, I sought opportunities to remain up-to date with the latest developments in my field, attend webinars and strengthen my skillsets. Here are some of the strategies I incorporated to stay relevant:
Joined a Board of Directors: I have a strong interest in immigrant settlement, continuous learning and career development. One of my goals from the career mapping activity done in step 1 was to develop leadership skills while actively contributing to these important causes. The research done on industry trends pointed to the advantages of serving on a board or committee. It would allow me to contribute my expertise, develop new knowledge, network with other professionals and develop leadership skills while advocating for a meaningful cause. Most board meetings happen remotely and you get to choose a commitment level that suits your availability.
I found opportunities on CharityVillage that were aligned with my vision. I applied for two opportunities, interviewed for one and now serve on a board that supports literacy development and skills training.
Presented at local libraries: To keep my facilitation skills active, I reached out to the marketing and outreach teams at my local libraries to discuss offering a mini virtual series to support community members with their job search needs. I was able to secure an evening schedule after my son’s bed time and provided this voluntary training for a few weeks.
Being a presenter at a conference or industry event also allows you to maintain connections within your field and enhances communication skills. Setting up email subscriptions to associations or organizations connected to your field of interest is a great way to find opportunities to present.
4. Learn new skills
A goal on my career path map was to secure more teaching opportunities. I recognized that my facilitation strategies could do with an upgrade and so I researched micro-credentials that were offered virtually. I found a wonderful program through eCampus Ontario where I gained a new certification and an expanded network of educators. This learning helped to strengthen my existing skills and sparked new knowledge which will enhance my practice.
5. Maintain work relationships
During my maternity leave, I scheduled a few visits to the office to introduce the team to my son and to connect with colleagues. Maintaining connections with the team while on leave made me feel supported and less disconnected from the work environment.
As I prepared to go back to work at the start of 2024, these five strategies nurtured the mindset I needed for a smooth re-entry to work. Navigating shifts in identity as a new parent is an evolving process. This process may involve introspection where you might find yourself rethinking what’s important to you, like your values, interests or career goals. You may experience feelings of loss, uncertainty or newfound purpose. On the other hand, it requires adapting to the practical demands of parenthood, such as managing time, finances and relationships, while simultaneously maintaining a sense of self amid the demands of caregiving. Overall, it’s about finding a new balance between who you were before and who you are now that you’re a parent. By embracing my intersectional identities, prioritizing career satisfaction and implementing practical strategies, I was able to embrace the joys of motherhood while remaining committed to my career goals.
